Two sides of the same coin

I’ve met a lot of toxic people throughout my life and I’ve always wondered what they gained from the hard work they’d put themselves into (I’m not really bragging, not being ironic either) I won’t lie though, I’m still in the process with the forgiving part. In order for me to level up, I’ll have to face my demons, and by that I mean mentally going through the messed up memories of mine. So that’s where I am today. It’s hard to put in words, but you can’t just skip a part of the healing process, because that’s where you’ll never move forwards. You’ll basically be stuck at the same place for the rest of your life. It took me actually years to finally realize that. I also am a big believer when it comes to “a right time for everything”, because that’s what I’ve also realized. You can’t control what you’re not ready for. It’s just not possible.I think it’s a big difference between depression and healing. They both have a lot of common traits and reactions, but they’re not the same. Depression is where you’d rather stay where you are, where you’re “comfortable”, instead of trying. Feeling the sadness and the sorrow is all that you know. While healing is where you’d rather face those emotions. The process will walk you through hell, but it won’t be a vicious circle.Now this will sound very familiar (sorry), but I gotta say that these experiences of mine have taught me a lot. I’m able to notice things that those around me don’t notice because they haven’t been through it yet. Sometimes It’s frustrating because it’s hard to watch some people fall into those traps, but hey, you’ll never learn if you’ll never face it yourself, am I right?